I’m thankful for all of the kind remarks our family has received regarding Wes & Kendal’s wedding! It was such a special and blessed event for our family!
Yesterday, I shared the emotional moment when our groom saw his bride, adorned in white, saved solely for him; and the overwhelming emotion the bride felt when she saw her groom waiting to claim her as his own forever.
No matter how many weddings I’ve sung in (literally hundreds), I have to say that the first eye contact the groom has with the bride is always my favorite. I’ve been hired as “the wedding singer” so many times, not really knowing anyone in the wedding party; but regardless of whether I know their “story” or not, as soon as the bride turns the corner and her groom catches sight of her, tears well up in my eyes. It’s a very special moment.
Saturday, Kendal’s father, Joe, led her down the center aisle that had been untouched, saved only for the bride, to her awaiting and adoring husband-to-be. As much as Wes loves and respects his new father-in-law, I could tell…he just wanted him to hand her over to him!
The pastor, Paul Waters (amazing minster and precious friend of our family), asked, “who gives this bride…” and Joe graciously placed Kendal’s hand in Wesley’s. I could read their faces…”this is really happening!”
What happened next was a moment I had been both dreading and anticipating since they were engaged in October. You see, Wes & Kendal had asked if I would sing in their wedding. The singer in me wanted to say, “Yeah!” but the mom in me was thinking, “How in the world will I get through that?” It meant so much that they would ask me to sing and I was honored to say, “Yes. I’d be happy to sing.”
The song was selected and I began to practice…sort of…well, not really. Here’s the thing; I couldn’t get past the first line of the song! “It’s only for a moment you are mine to hold…” and as if on cue, TEARS WERE POURING. How would I get through this? I don’t mind an emotional song, but I contend with two things: first, I cannot sing when I’m crying and second, I’m an UGLY crier. For real! My face scrunches up and it’s completely outside the realm of my control to straighten it. The harder I try the worse it gets.
I have learned through hard experiences that what works best for me is to just get in my car, pop in the soundtrack, and sing and cry and sing and cry until I can sing without crying. It’s what I’ve had to do when singing for all of my grandparents’ funerals, it’s what I had to do to sing for my father’s funeral, and it’s what I did to prepare for the wedding.
Thank the Lord, it worked.
I only felt a lump come into my throat when Wes & Kendal turned to look at me. So, I closed my eyes. 🙂 Tears averted.
“It’s only for a moment you are mine to hold; the plans that heaven has for you will all too soon unfold.
So many different prayers I’ll pray for all that you might do;
but most of all I want to know you’re walking in the truth.
And if I never told you, I want you to know, that as I’ve watched you grow…
I pray that God will fill your heart with dreams
And that faith gives you the courage to dare to do great things
I’m here for you whatever this life brings
So let my love give you roots, and help you find your wings.”
That’s the first verse and chorus to Mark Harris’ beautiful song, “Find Your Wings”. And that’s the song I was honored to sing for Wes & Kendal’s wedding. I’m thankful that I could sing the words of this song knowing that Wes is endeavoring every day to walk in the Truth – Jesus Christ.
It’s true you know…it’s only for a moment those little ones are ours to hold. Cherish those moments, Moms. They don’t stay small for long…but at least Wes stayed “toe-headed”. 🙂
Funny for the day…remember I wrote yesterday that Eli was quite emotional over Wes getting married. When asked if he would cry at Caleb’s wedding, he said, “Yeah, but not for Caleb; for the poor girl he’s marrying.” Feel the love, huh?